The Office for Marriage and Family Life provides the Catholic Diocese of Wilmington (CDOW) parishes with Marriage Moments and Parenting Pointers promoting marital enrichment and parental support.
“Marriage and Family Life Corner”
MARRIAGE MOMENTS .
Sunday July 7: As a married couple you are sent to bring good news to the people around you. Who can you lift up today?
Sunday July 14: It is probably hot. How do you and your beloved cool off – an iced drink, a swim, a place with air-conditioning? Think of a way to help someone who does not have AC to cool off on a hot day?
Sunday July 21: Being hospitable vs. being “present.” Some people are like Martha (doing the cooking) others are like Mary (listening attentively to a guest). Both are necessary. In your marriage, which of you are drawn to which role? Try switching one time to broaden your skill set.
Sunday July 28: Treat each other! Wives: Give him an afternoon of uninterrupted time to watch sports. Husbands: Place a rose under the car’s windshield wiper. Sure these are gender stereotypes, but let it prompt you to think of your own personal creative treat.
Sunday August 4: Let us face it, all of us are vain to some extent. We want to look good to others. Perhaps one of the few people who will give us honest feedback about our faults is your spouse. Share one weakness that you observe in your beloved today, but balance it with one thing that makes you proud of your beloved. Humbly accept both.
Sunday August 11: It is easy to slip into the habit of grumbling to your spouse. Although occasional venting can be cathartic, this week focus on putting away your grumbling self and balance it with renewed gratefulness. It will make both of you happier.
Sunday August 18: Natural or national disasters can bring out the best in humanity as we rally to help those in need. A marriage crisis can also prompt a couple to sacrifice for each other or honestly deal with a recurring problem. Do not wait for a disaster, however, to test your love. Prevention is better.
Sunday August 25: Many marital arguments focus on “Who is right.” It is natural to want to be right in an argument but it does not serve your love. Even if you can fact check your position and prove you are right, it is better to come up with a “win/win” solution. Practice looking for creative alternatives during your next argument.
Sunday July 7: What do your children want to be when they grow up? Laboring as a peacemaker is a worthy vocation. Talk to your children about how they can be peacemakers with their peers.
Sunday July 14: Talk about an age appropriate favor that your child can do for someone on your block (give a flower, make cookies, mow the lawn…).
Sunday July 21: Is it a chore to get your kids to help around the house? It is not too late to start since it does not have to end with the end of summer.
Sunday July 28: For many people, summer is a good time to do recreational reading. What was your favorite book as a child? If your child is old enough you have probably already read it together. Talk about why it was your favorite.
Sunday August 4: Usually people do not lie because they are bad, evil people but rather because they are afraid or want to protect themselves. Talk with your family about whether there is a time when a lie is acceptable?
Sunday August 11: Whether it is wet or dry, hot or cold, take advantage of whatever weather you have. Do silly things like walk in the rain, make mud pies, build sand castles, bundle up in blankets… Unusual experiences are memories that stick.
Sunday August 18: Parental discipline (or even self-discipline) is often unwelcome. Talk with your child about the pros and cons of not always taking the easy, pleasant solution to a problem. Share a time when you had to discipline yourself.
Sunday August 25: Have you ever been embarrassed? Sure. If your child is old enough, share your experiences. Most parents brag about their child at some point but be cautious of too much bragging.